Ladies and gentlehumans, I’ve been doing a lot of soul-searching of late (I’ve turned up 8 as it happens) and I’ve made a few discoveries about myself. One in particular stands out, but to explain I must provide a bit of backstory.
I beg your indulgence as I fire up the Way-Back Machine and take you back to an even that occurred a long time ago in a galaxy suspiciously similar to this one…
“Dearly beloved, friends romans, countrymen and assorted riffraff, we are gathered here today to witness the joining of this man and this way of doing things in holy-moly matrimony, until death do they part or 70,000 miles, whichever comes first, so help me Rhonda.
If there is anyone in this assembly who believes these two should not be joined at the tragically hip, then speak now or forever hold your horses…”
Wow… If only someone had spoken up back then. Hell, if only I had spoken up back then, imagine how different my life would be now!
Ah well, I think the irrepressible Mark Twain said it best when he said… Actually, I have no idea what he said because he died in 1910. Probably why he won’t return my emails.
Now don’t get me wrong dearest reader. The way of doing things I married was a fine specimen of the breed, but… as time went on, we changed. Our lives grew apart, and I started to looking for other ways of doing things.
“So why did you get married?” I hear you ask, despite the fact that you’re typing. My only excuse is that back then we were young and foolish. We believed that the world was our oyster, that we would never part and that there really would only be three Star Wars films.
With the inexorable advance of time, we’ve come to realize that we were never meant to be together forever, and as a result we decided to part ways, amicably enough as it turned out.
Unlike albatrosses, penguins and the legendary pair of George Burns and Gracie Allen, people and processes are not meant to mate for life. We come together for a brief but mutually beneficial time, and then move on as our desires and needs change.
The truth is, processes are just not the marrying kind.
Are you married to a certain way of doing things? If so, it may be time to revisit the relationship and determine what’s best for both of you.
Any relationship held together by expectation or obligation is bound to become toxic over time, and that’s just not healthy.
You both deserve better than that.